I know this may be a repeat for some of you ladies. But I had to post this again for a friend of mine. So…have you ever thought that after you became saved that you can no longer be fly? That you can no longer be sexy? That you can no longer be expressive in being a woman? If so, what thought came to mind to make you feel that way?
Was it the opinion of another? Was it an experience that you went through? Or maybe you just assumed that because of the images you saw in church; the big hat, long dresses, handkerchief on the lap and figured maybe that’s the ‘Christian’ look.
Whatever the reason, I’m here to say that there is no such thing as a cookie cutter mold to what Christian women should look like. And yet we as woman are treated so harshly when we don’t follow this mold. Especially young adult women in the church.
As a woman who has grown up in the church all my life, I have seen and heard it all. Plus being a PK (preacher’s kid) was a bit intimidating at times. And the reason I say that is because I was afraid to mess up, say the wrong thing or wear the wrong thing. And even sometimes when I did do the right thing, it would still be seen as me being a goody two shoes. So you can’t please everybody.
But one major thing that has helped myself and my three sisters, was being able to have a positive dialogue with my mom and grandma and other Christian women close to me. And that’s something that needs to happen to move us forward in a positive direction. A dialogue.
Right now the dialogue is something like this, “Don’t do this” “Don’t wear that” or “That’s not right,” or “That’s wrong.” In all that, there is no true solution, no empathy, no understanding towards the woman. And she could be a new believer and is just unsure of certain things. So instead what needs to happen is a better approach that is positive. Like coming to her gently and letting her know its ok to be fierce, even in the church, but here’s how you do it. This way she is corrected gently and doesn’t feel bad. Because what usually happens when not approached gently, with kindness; the woman feels ashamed and leaves. And she leaves the church because of those in the pews!
My goal and my prayer for Christian women and for all women as well, is to create positive building blocks with steps on how to help women feel like women, no matter where we go and feel sassy, sexy and saved in the Lord. So we can better ourselves, so we can help others.
“For we are God’s masterpiece…” Ephesians 2:10